Because you can do way better than a bridesmaid tee and a box full of things they will NEVER use.
You’ve found The One. He’s popped the question, maybe even your cherry, too. Or not? You cried. You froze. Time stood still. He waited…and waited and then.. silence broke.
“Yes, YES, a million times yes!” – when asked to be his forever. Welcome to The Engaged Life, congrats are in order!
OMG! It’s official. You’re Engaged AF! How amazing is that?
You’ve got your beau, and your best girls, too. You’ve called your mama and grandma, you may have even shared the news on Insta.
But – there’s one more thing. It’s time to propose to your bridesmaids.
You have to ask your best gals (aka bridesmaids) to stand by your side – as you take the plunge.
Your BFFs, your tribe, the ones who’ve been with you through thick and thin, from partying to studying, from ugly frogs to THE prince charming – the ones who you’ve grown up with – literally.
You may have been dreaming about this day for…well, EVER.
Now, how to make your BFFLs feel special? Not to worry! We’ve got 13 unique bridesmaid proposal ideas that your girls will actually love.
Sure, you could simply text them, “Hey girl – wanna be my bridesmaid?” No need to be boring. We know your bridesmaids are more than a text or a box of “stuff they will never use.” And do they really need another T-shirt that screams, “Bridesmaid?”
Not on your watch! After all, they’re bridesmaids for a day, but friends for a lifetime.
This is the time to make them feel extra special, and what better way than super cool bridesmaid proposal ideas?
Time to pop the bubbly and grab your best girls! Show them just how much they mean to you.
Need a little help? We’ve got your back, boo! Here are 13 of our Happily Ev-approved bridesmaid proposal ideas that your girls will actually love. Because, no doubt, these ideas will be sweeter than a spoonful of sugar. Warning: tears may ensue.
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1. Popcorn and a Movie Night With a Bridesmaid Proposal ideas Twist
Nothing says ‘friends forever’ more than an evening at home with your besties, lots of popcorn, and a classic wedding movie like ‘Bridesmaids‘ or ‘27 Dresses,’ of course.
Use this opportunity to pop the question by writing “Will you be my bridesmaid?” on a piece of paper and putting it at the bottom of the popcorn bowl. Then get ready for lots of laughter, tears, and hugs. Oh, and of course some bonding time before the big day.
Be sure to capture the moment they accidentally grab the paper instead of the buttery popcorn. You’re sure to get some priceless reactions, as they read your special request.
2. All About Spa Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas
Spa day, anyone? Pamper your BFFs and let them take a break from the struggles of real life before they join your happily ever fairytale.
Do some research and find a local spa that offers group packages. Then plan a day of relaxation for your bridesmaids – a massage, facial, or mani-pedi is sure to get them feeling refreshed and ready for the big day.
Pop the bubbly and surprise them with their bridesmaid proposal in a special spa-themed gift bag. Make sure to include a handwritten bridesmaid proposal card asking them to be your bridesmaids!
Or say it with polish and nail the perfect bridesmaid proposal gift. Before they select their nail polish color, hand them the “Be My Bridesmaid?” nail polish and pop the most important question to your ‘maids-to-be.
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This gorgeous polish makes for a beautiful gift that all of the girls won’t be able to say no to. Trust me.
3. Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas Treasure hunt: Ask Them With a Little Mystery
Got some competitive types in your bridal party? Send your bride tribe on an epic scavenger hunt to find the bridesmaid proposal gifts!
Maybe it’s hiding in a pile of leaves, or maybe it’s buried in the sand. Adapt the idea to fit your theme and get creative!
Give them clues and tasks that lead to the final destination – where you’ll be waiting on one knee, to ask them to be your bridesmaids.
You can plan this scavenger hunt around your city, or even just in your home.
Make sure to include something personal for each bridesmaid – maybe a jewelry gift box or a personalized makeup bag. It’s sure to be a crazy adventure they won’t forget!
Bonus points if you propose with a ring pop. It will make them “oh-my-gosh-I’m-a-bridesmaid” ecstatic. Such a fun bridesmaid proposal idea.
4. Breakable Chocolate Heart Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas
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If uh, your girls have a sweet tooth, then this bridesmaid proposal idea is for you!
Gift each bridesmaid something sweet. No, not a wedding cake! Chocolate is always the answer. Give your girls a breakable chocolate heart with a hidden message inside: “Be my bridesmaid.”
Chocolate hearts are the way to a girl’s heart. Breakable chocolate hearts are even better! Watch as the anticipation increases and the excitement builds – as they smash the edible heart into pieces.
Will the message reveal, bridesmaids or bust? MOH? You betcha!
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Your future bridesmaids will be on the edge of their seats as they break open the chocolate heart and finally read your proposal.
No matter what bridal party role is revealed, your bridesmaids will appreciate the thoughtful gesture.
Make sure to capture some candid shots of them hammering away at the breakable chocolate heart. As soon as they read the message, it’s time to pop that bubbly.
5. Bridesmaid Proposal Puzzles
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Love puzzles? Turn your bridesmaid proposal into an interactive work of art.
Create a customized puzzle with a photo of you and your bridesmaids. Write “Will you be my bridesmaid?” on the puzzle.
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Get ready for some major bonding time as they fiddle around trying to assemble the puzzle.
Your bridesmaids will love piecing this special moment together, as they discover your heartfelt message once it’s complete. And best of all, you get to witness how your friends interact with each other.
When they’re done, frame the puzzle and hang it up as a reminder of all the love that went into putting it together. This can also be a cute proposal gift idea for your flower girl.
6. Brunch, Bridesmaids, & Bellinis
Rosé all day! But Bellinis for beauties! As if you needed an extra excuse to get drunk (uh I mean to brunch.) Why not use it as an opportunity to propose to your bridesmaids?
Invite your ‘maids over for an intimate brunch and fizzy drinks, then reveal their bridesmaid gifts with heartfelt letters on the side. You can serve the bellinis in custom caricature print champagne flutes.
Even better? Take it up a notch and toast to the occasion with mini bottles of bubbly, tiaras, and sashes – after all, they are the princesses of your magical kingdom!
7. Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas Scratch off Cards
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You won the jackpot when you met your beau. He did, too! But we all know you hit the bridesmaid lottery with your besties! You know they’re a winning team of girls. So why not make them feel like they’ve won it big, with the lottery?
As if the suspense of scratch-off lottery tickets wasn’t enough, amp up the anticipation with the game you know and love, made just for your bridal party.
Surprise each of them with a bridesmaid proposal scratch-off card.
Say “You scratch my back, and I’ll scratch yours” with this uber cute and creative bridesmaid proposal idea.
Inside each bridesmaid proposal card, you can write a personalized message to your bridesmaids – “Be my bridesmaid” along with a coin to scratch off the hidden message.
All they have to do is scratch off the card and see if they’re in your bridal party.
They’ll love to get these scratch-off cards that reveal their roles in your bridal party. It’s even more fun if each card is attached to a gift.
Bridesmaid proposals don’t get any more creative than this! Best of all, they make amazing keepsakes.
8. Always on the Go Brides, this one is for you! A Surprise Trip.
Now that’s something your bridesmaids will love! Well, besides your awesome bridal shower.
Surprise your bridesmaids with a weekend getaway and ask them to be part of your wedding party. For adventure-seeking brides who want to incorporate travel into their proposal, this is the perfect way.
You can reveal their roles with a personalized luggage tag, or a passport with a stamp that reads “Will you be my bridesmaid?”
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It doesn’t have to be out of the country or expensive. (Hey, a road trip can also be fun.)
You can plan a staycation if you want to stay close to home. A spa weekend with yoga and massages, a camping trip with s’mores, or even a wine-tasting adventure.
Whether you’re headed to a beachside resort or a mountain cabin, your bridesmaids will be thrilled at the thought of going away with their best friends.
No matter what you plan, the unique surprise will be full of fun and adventure.
Once they realize that their trip is actually an official bridesmaid proposal, your girls will be over the moon!
It’s the perfect way to bond with your bridesmaids – and get away from all the wedding planning stress. Plus, you get to make lasting memories with your best girls.
9. Fortune Cookie Bridesmaid Proposal
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Fortune cookies because you’re fortunate to have your bridesmaids as BFFLs. Let your bride tribe know just how lucky they are.
Invite your bridesmaids-to-be over for dinner and surprise them with Chinese takeout – but with a twist. Instead of the usual chicken and fried rice, inside each container will be a fortune cookie with a personalized message. What a neat bridesmaid proposal box idea!
Write something like: You’re the luckiest bride because you have the best bridesmaids by your side. (Will you accept?) Or you can make it even more playful – “Please make me one lucky bride! Will you be my Maid of Honor?”
Present this Chinese food-inspired bridesmaid proposal gift box to each of your bridesmaids over Chinese takeout, and watch the excitement unfold. Your bridesmaids will be delighted when they open their fortune cookies. Have them each read their fortunes out loud and watch their reactions!
No matter what you write, your BFFs will know that they were thought of as more than just a bridesmaid t-shirt. No shade to matching bridesmaid tees, but fortune cookies are way more creative!
Your bridesmaids will love the unique surprise. These little details will make your bridesmaid proposal extra special. It’s a great way to start the celebrations off on the right note.
10. Bridesmaid’s Personalized tote bags
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Bridesmaid proposal boxes are so 1990. Brides you’ve heard it: Bridesmaid totes are tote-ally awesome!
Ditch the traditional bridesmaid boxes and surprise your best girls with a personalized tote bag that features their initials. Or you can get creative and customize with your wedding or bach theme. Think: palm trees or rose gold glitter.
Fill each bag with all the goodies your girls love. From champagne-scented bath bombs to monogrammed champagne glasses. You can customize the gift to fit each bridesmaid’s personality.
Include a cute note that reads: “You Tote-ally Gotta Be My Bridesmaid.” Obviously, they have no choice but to say, “YES!”
It’s a thoughtful way to ask and a stylish way to say “Yes!”
11. Bridesmaid Proposal Custom Sequin Pillow
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As if your BFFs needed another reason to love sequins. Let’s be clear – this is THE coolest pillow. Ever.
Customize a sequin pillow for each of your bridesmaids with the phrase “Sequin a Bridesmaid! Will you be mine?”
When they first see the sequins, they won’t be able to resist rubbing their hands over it, to reveal the secret message. Your bridesmaids will totally squeal with giggles when they see the hidden message!
12. Bridesmaid Proposal Photo Shoot
Invite your bridesmaids over for a surprise photo shoot for their proposal!
Ask them to get styled and glammed up for the occasion. Or ask a makeup artist to glam them up – whatever suits their style! But, keep some details hush-hush.
Hire a photographer to capture a variety of fun shots. From individual portraits to silly group shots – snap away and make sure it’s all documented. In the save mode? You can always take your own photos with a Polaroid camera.
At the end of the shoot, surprise them with a banner and champagne that reads: “Will you be my bridesmaid?”
They’ll be ecstatic when they realize it’s all for them. It will be a truly memorable moment that they won’t forget.
13. Bridesmaid Proposal Painting with a Twist
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Bring out your inner Picasso and let your bridesmaids know they’re the brushstrokes of your life. Invite your BFFs over for a Painting with a Twist session and show them how they bring beauty and color to your life, just like paint.
Choose a painting that has a special meaning to them or create your own custom design. Bonus points if you can find a painting that has to do with weddings or bridesmaids.
They’ll be eager to show off their artwork filled with big smiles, good vibes, and happy tears.
When you’re done, surprise them with a sweet message on your canvas: “Will you be my bridesmaid?”
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It’s a fun and creative way to ask your BFFs to join your wedding squad. Plus, they’ll walk away with a personalized painting that will serve as a beautiful reminder of the occasion. This also makes for a great bachelorette party event.
14. Duffel Bag Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas
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Here’s a secret: Girls love duffel bags. Seriously, they need them for all their travel plans. From
weekend trips to their boyfriend’s place to a bachelorette getaway across the country, your best girls will need a cute bag to hold all their travel essentials.
Design your own custom duffle bags for each bridesmaid, or find stylish ones online.
Fill the bag with all her favorite things like a sweet handwritten note, beauty products, and other goodies. Include a pearl necklace or earrings with an engraved bracelet that says, “Take Me For A Journey, Will You Be My Bridesmaid?”
Your bridesmaids will love the bag, plus they can use it for all the wedding festivities. From the bachelorette party to getting ready on the day of, she’ll be all set. Let’s be honest, who doesn’t need a duffel bag? Certainly not me.
Summary: Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas
We hope these creative bridesmaid proposal ideas inspire you to come up with something truly unique and make your BFFs feel extra special. After all, they deserve it!
Because let’s be honest, they have put up with your crazy for far too long!
Your bridesmaids will play an integral role in the months and days leading up to your big day, whether that’s helping out with the bridal shower or planning the ultimate bach trip, so make sure they feel special from the start.
No matter how you propose, it’s important to make sure each person feels appreciated and valued.
Your bridal party will be there for every laugh and tear shared leading up to the big day, so make it count!
No matter which one of the creative bridesmaid proposal ideas you choose, just remember: this is about showing your girls how much they mean to you and making them feel special.
Somehow, we think they already know!
So, you’ve got your beau. Your squad, too. You know they’ll say We do. So no fret.
Now STOP reading & GObook that trip! Want more inspo? Check out our other stories. Or stop by our social media pages, it’s where the cool kids hang out.
Cheers to Happily Ever Travels,
Avi & Mark
Bridesmaid Proposal Ideas FAQs
Do you ask bridesmaids together?
When it comes to asking your bridesmaids, it’s totally up to you how you want to go about it. Some couples choose to ask their bridesmaids all at once, while others prefer to do it individually.
If you want the element of surprise when asking your bridesmaids, an individual approach is more appropriate. If you want to make a big statement and have all of your bridesmaids together when you ask them, then a group approach would be more fitting.
Whatever your preferences, make sure to make it personal and special for each of your bridesmaids!
Do you need a date before asking bridesmaids?
No, you don’t necessarily need a date before asking your bridesmaids. Once you have the wedding date set, you can do the actual bridesmaid proposal.
However, it’s probably a good idea to make sure you have an estimated date or at least a general timeline in mind when asking your bridesmaids. This will give them an idea of what to expect and help them plan accordingly.
Who is supposed to pay for the bridesmaid dresses?
Traditionally, the bride is responsible for paying for her bridesmaids’ dresses. However, it’s becoming more and more common for bridesmaids to be asked to pay for their own dresses.
If you decide to go this route, it’s best to communicate this upfront and give your bridesmaids plenty of time to save up for the dresses. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide who pays for the dresses, so make sure to discuss this with your bridesmaids before making a final decision.
How many bridesmaids should you have?
The number of bridesmaids you have is completely up to you and there’s no right or wrong answer. Some couples choose to have a large wedding party with lots of bridesmaids, while others prefer to keep it small and intimate.
It’s important to consider your budget when deciding how many bridesmaids to have, as dresses and gifts can add up quickly. Ultimately, it’s about what works best for you and your partner, so don’t feel obligated to have a large wedding party if it doesn’t fit into your plan.
The average number of bridesmaids is usually between four and six, but feel free to do as you, please. After all, it is your wedding.
What is the rule of thumb for bridesmaids?
When it comes to bridesmaids, there are no hard and fast rules. The most important thing is that you pick people who will be there for you throughout your wedding planning process and who will support you on the day of the wedding.
In terms of etiquette, it’s generally considered polite to ask family members before friends and to keep the number of bridesmaids on each side of the aisle equal. It’s also good etiquette to ask your bridesmaids to help you prepare for the wedding day and attend any pre-wedding events such as showers or bachelorette parties.
Remember to have fun and enjoy the process! After all, your wedding day should be a celebration of love and joy.
Make sure to keep open communication between you and your bridesmaids. Ask for their input on decisions and be honest if something isn’t working out.
At the end of the day, you want your bridesmaids to feel appreciated and included in the process. Finally, don’t forget to show your appreciation for them once it’s all said and done!
With the right people by your side, you’ll be sure to have an amazing wedding day!
How soon should you propose to your bridesmaids?
It really depends on the bride-to-be, but it’s best to give your bridesmaids as much notice as possible so that they can make necessary preparations. Some might need to book time off work or organize travel arrangements, while others may need to buy a dress or arrange childcare.
Usually, it’s recommended to propose at least six months before the wedding day so that everyone has plenty of time to get everything sorted. Don’t be afraid to check in with them throughout the process and make sure they’re comfortable with their duties as bridesmaids.
Being a bridesmaid is a big responsibility, so it’s important to make sure your girls are taken care of!
If you’re planning an international wedding, you may want to give your bridesmaids even more notice (at least a year) so they have enough time to make all the necessary arrangements. It’s also a nice gesture to offer to pay for their flights and accommodations if it’s within your budget.
How do you propose to your bridesmaids?
You’ve found your heart and picked your bridal party. Now it’s time for the fun part! Asking your bridesmaids is such an important part of the wedding planning process. Whether you choose to go the traditional route and gift them a box, or find an unexpected way to show your appreciation, no need to overthink. Here are some of our favorite ways to propose to your bridesmaids (besides what we’ve already listed):
1. Personalized proposal boxes: Taking the traditional route of gifting your bridesmaids a box is an easy and timeless way to ask them. Fill the box with goodies that your bridesmaids will love – think cozy slippers, a small bottle of their favorite champagne, a handwritten note, or even some bridesmaid’s jewelry.
2. Brunch: Ask your bridesmaids to brunch and surprise them by having each of their boxes waiting for them at the table. This will add a personal touch to your proposal, as well as give you an opportunity to enjoy a delicious meal with your besties.
3. Get creative: Instead of doing the same old proposal, surprise your bridesmaids with something a little outside the box. Have a picnic on the beach, plan a spa day, or gather for a night of karaoke. Whatever you decide, make sure you include things that your bridesmaids will love and cherish in the moment.
4. Just ask!!! Sometimes the best way to ask your bridesmaids is just the simplest. Pick up the phone, grab lunch with them, or send them a heartfelt card. Whatever you choose, just make sure your bridesmaids know how special they are to you and that you can’t imagine your wedding day without them.
We hope our bridesmaid proposal ideas list has sparked some inspiration!
How much should a bridesmaid proposal be?
The amount that you spend on a bridesmaid proposal should be relative to your budget. You don’t have to go all out if you don’t have the means.
A thoughtful gesture like a handwritten note accompanied with a small gift or token of appreciation is just as meaningful.
If you can afford to, then it’s nice to present a bigger gift or plan an elaborate outing. It all depends on your budget and how much you can comfortably afford.
The average bride spends around $20 – $50 for each bridesmaid proposal but it can range from under $10 to hundreds of dollars.
What really matters is that you show your bridesmaids how much you appreciate them and the special role they will have on your wedding day. That is an experience that money can’t buy!
No matter how much you spend, your bridesmaids will be touched by your thoughtful gesture and love being part of your special day.
